Stand Tall Like You Mean It and Other Definitions of Strength

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BEING STRONG is one of my repetitive themes. I think about it, talk about it, and write about it.

I do it.

I used to think of being strong in purely the literal sense – muscular, powerful, and indestructible. Rarely, if ever, do I achieve this type of strength. In time, my definition broadened to a mental strength able to withstand hardships and adversity. Both of those definitions still hold true for me, but strength takes on a personal definition when you define it as an integral part of yourself as a cancer survivor. What does it mean to be strong as someone living with cancer?

Physical Strength

Being physically strong helps build your own private army inside to combat disease. A strong body makes it harder for disease to take hold. A strong body usually means a strong immune system. And it feels good! Build strength and stamina as you are able. Walking, cardio, and weight training all build stamina and strength. Pick an activity you enjoy. Physical strength does so much more than build muscle. Being physically strong also boosts your confidence and will.

Stand Tall and Mean It

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Posture is great and exerts your confidence. I was surprised to discover I grew an inch in the past year. The reverse is more what I’d expect. I attribute the miracle inch to working out more, stretching my spine, and not carrying myself slightly hunched over with the fear of what might happen next. I’ve learned a lot about how to stand tall physically and emotionally. Right now, I want to emphasize the more figurative meaning. Be more than okay with the choices you make. You get to decide. You are in control. There are many days it feels like you aren’t in control, but you are so much more than a bad day or days. Trust yourself to make the choices that are right for you. No one else has to understand it. Stand tall and mean it. I find myself regularly surprised at how good I feel when I think of myself as ten feet tall on the inside. RISE UP!

You Are Strong Enough

No matter what situation you find yourself in, you are strong enough. I love the pep talks I give myself. It’s really important you know how you feel about how you plan to live because you will have many opportunities to speak your intentions. Not everyone will support these. Too bad for them. Some may even insist you can’t do something. You certainly are stronger than someone else’s opinion of your inner strength. You are stronger than you know. Think of all the unknowns, challenges, and disappointments you’ve gotten through in life. Don’t doubt that you are strong enough to handle what comes your way. You are amazingly strong.

Tears As Strength

I have always been a crier. It has taken years for me to grow into my tears and understand they are a strength and not a weakness. I am comfortable with my feelings. I am vulnerable enough to let them come. And I have an ugly cry, just saying. Crying it out releases emotions that need to be sent away. Everyone is different. Some of us are more sensitive than others. Crying works really, really well for me. LET TEARS BE PART OF YOUR STRONG STORM.

What does being strong mean to you? Being a strong cancer survivor means I can define strength however it works for me. I can push myself a little harder and farther physically. I can tell negativity to take a hike. I can be tough enough to take breaks and rest. I can have a good cry when needed. However I choose to define strength, I know I am more than strong enough. We all are.

Author: Kristie Konsoer

I am a breast cancer survivor, living well with MBC since 2012. This blog is a place where I can share thoughts and ideas on how I feel perceptions on cancer must change, and how I am finding a way to live with strength, hope, meaning, resiliency, humor, and hopefully a little wisdom, all while living with what I call a Stage V lifestyle. For me, there is no Stage IV. I am Stage V. I am powerful, I am well, and I am relentless.

2 thoughts on “Stand Tall Like You Mean It and Other Definitions of Strength”

  1. When tears come, I am cleansed and lifted. I feel stronger, as a result. I don’t resist my tears anymore. I allow them to be expressed and to release my woes. After these tears, I move into another frame of mind, a more relaxed and dynamic one.
    Kristie, your words remind me of our strength building through tears.

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